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Find Him before you find him!

Dear all,

Good Morning, I hope the start to your week has been fulfilling; wishing you an even more fruitful week ahead! I must apologise for not posting last night and not getting round to posting or replying the comments. It was a busy day but I will get round to it this evening; please bear with me! For those, who’ve sent emails, I will respond this evening.

This topic has been on my mind for quite a while but I’ve decided to finally put “pen to paper”! Many a time, I listen to Pastors who say they are so happy they found God before they married because they were able to make their choice of a spouse very wisely!

At one of our meetings in Church, we were asked to state what we were thankful for and my boss said she was thankful that she broke up a past relationship and married her husband; today they are happily married with two kids. She said, had she married the other man, today they would probably be divorced. I’ve also spoken to people who have been in long term relationships but now want to end them because they have “outgrown” their partners.

What I am trying to say is, when you meet someone as an unbeliever or baby Christian, that person may be perfect for you. You may both like smoking, you both enjoy sleep overs, going clubbing or whatever it may be! The minute you become born again, the person’s persona no longer appeals to you. It doesn’t fit in with you. For example, many couples meet while at University; they may be studying the same course and believe they are perfect for each other then but when they graduate and get into the real world, they may start to notice some challenges.

I pray to God that you will all find and know God before you get married. If you are in the world and marry a man you like and he’s a successful drug dealer, the minute you become born again, you will no longer want to be tied to him. The minute you discover your purpose and vision for life, while he is still engrossed in drugs and all kinds of sinful acts, you will feel sick! I pray you will never regret the choices you make.

This is why I say to many single Christians not to be upset that they are not yet married. God loves you and kept you! He wanted you to know Him first, so you would know the right things to look for and pick the right partner! AMEN! Sometimes two unsaved people marry and they both get saved; that is divine favour! Many a time, it doesn’t happen like that! Now that you are still single, thank God! Genuinely thank Him that you didn’t get involved in any useless or catastrophic marriage before you found Him. Thank Him that every destructive relationship you were in is over.

I however, need to address a group of people! You are in a relationship right now but when you met your partner, you didn’t know God. However, you’ve recently found Him and want a relationship with Him. Your partner is holding you back. They haven’t given their life to Christ and aren’t ready to submit to His authority or stop the sinful things you do. If you have tried introducing that person to God without any success, God wants you to break up that relationship. I tell you it is better to have a broken relationship or engagement than a broken marriage! Please, ask God to grant you the grace to walk away! He will grant you strength! Amen! You can pray for the person to find God even whilst broken up but you need to cut all ties! Believe me; God has better things in store for you! Don’t let a wrong or sinful relationship interfere with your greatness! You will be healed, restored and God will send you better! Amen!

I would now like to address the married! Some of you got married as unbelievers but now you know God but your spouse is still unsaved! You feel weary, sad, regretful, unhappy! Your spouse may be very unreceptive to Christ, he may be involved in adultery. Go to your God on your knees and thank Him for your salvation, thank Him for your life, thank Him for your spouse and your home! Do not be worried, do not be depressed! Tell God what you need! You need His convincing, converting and convicting spirit to change your spouse! Whatever you do, keep serving God! Never miss Sunday or midweek service, serve in Church! Give God your all! Don’t stop loving your spouse; if you are a woman, submit to him. Show him the love of Christ, speak over his life! Even when he sleeps, pray over him, anoint him. Walk around your house anointing the whole house and praying for him. Pray fervent and consistent prayers! Speak about God! No matter how reckless he may be, keep loving and forgiving! He will wonder why and how you became so compassionate! If you practise your Christianity faithfully, it becomes contagious! Believe me! The same God that saved you will also save him. AMEN!!

I hope this has blessed someone, I hope this message will bring restoration to homes and end every wrong appointment and relationship. To the singles, you will never regret your choice of a spouse. AMEN! May the Lord give us the wisdom to choose rightly, the thirst to pursue Him and the power to love. AMEN. Have a wonderful and blessed day. God bless you all.

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