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RCCG Festival of Life Update

Good Evening family,


Quick post just to update you! As you know, the RCCG Festival of Life London took place yesterday at the Excel Centre and I was asked to help out before the event! Anyway, coupled with my moving, the day before (Thursday) was a very busy one for me; especially trying to sell my car! That was a great difficulty; I had received absolutely NO interest on auto trader only a few personal friends enquiring but nothing solid! It was a great source of disappointment for me!



The Festival of Life started at 8pm last night and ended at 5:30am this morning- The theme was- “The Second Touch”! So, about 9 and a half hours of praising God! Awesome! Anyway, I was due to get to the Excel centre 12 hours before the event started; 8am yesterday! Stay for the event and after the event ended at half 5, clear up till about half 8! That meant working for 24hours straight. 8am Friday till after the event; 8:30am today! So, I knew a good night’s rest was essential. I didn’t get to bed till about 1am and needed to be up by 6 but I was unable to sleep. In addition to that, I missed my alarm and woke up at 7am and left the house at half 7. We were meant to gather at 8am to pray with the GO- Pastor E.A Adeboye and meet him and then start our various task but I had car trouble and didn’t get there till half 9 and so I was unable to meet him.



But the Lord is forever faithful! I was setting up the vip rooms for some of the Pastors and I was allocated two rooms on the GO’s floor and inspected all the rooms on the floor including that of the GO and his wife. He wasn’t in the room at the time but I was happy to at least have had some form of contact with him and was grateful. Anyway, we worked up until the event started at 8pm. At this time I was extremely tired, having driven two hours to get there and walking, carrying and working for about eleven hours, we went to my colleague’s Hotel room (also inside the venue) to relax. I knew I needed the rest but decided I would return to the event hall at midnight as the GO normally starts preaching at 1am.


I fell asleep and had set an alarm to go back to the service at midnight! Unfortunately, I missed the alarm again as I was thoroughly exhausted! I mentally decided to just sleep since I was so tired. To my surprise, around 1am, one of my colleagues in the room started snoring profusely and I tried to shut my ears, turned several times but I couldn’t sleep! I was AWAKENED and could no longer fall asleep and so I got up and started getting ready to return to the venue! Can you believe that as soon as I was fully awake, the snoring stopped? I knew it was the Lord! If not for the horrible snoring, I would have missed the message. I quickly headed right back to the hall and started taking notes of the Word! It was amazing as always; I can always describe a message but never the GO’s! So hard to put into words but every bit of it appealed to me and I praised God! I went there believing in God for spiritual growth personally, ministry growth, healing upon my father, marital settlement, a distinction in my Master’s and a smooth relocation to Nigeria!


The GO was led by God to pray for different categories of people. First, the students and so I stood up as I am still awaiting my results from the Post graduate project! I brought along the assignment receipt for the dissertation and held it up and prayed and received His prophecies! Brethren, celebrate with me because my distinction is sure! It is done; not because of anything I’ve done but because the Lord has said it! He prayed for eligible singles believing in God for a spouse, I stood up and received every word of prophecy. Again my family, celebrate with me because my wedding is fast approaching and my Godly inspirational marriage will soon be a point of contact for thousands of Christians including YOU! Amen! He prayed for those expecting financial upliftment, I stood again and received it! Brethren, you are hearing from a woman who’s tithe is about to increase magnificently! Amen! Another category mentioned was that of married women who have been unable to bear children, I stood in the gap for an aunt of mine and for readers who are in this situation. I may not know you but I know that our God is able and by the power of God, this month you shall conceive and if it is twins or triplets you want, in nine months time, you will carry your healthy children! Amen!


The last part of the service is something the GO was directed to do many years ago, when the congregation holds up a piece of cloth- handkerchief, scarf and so on and the anointing of God falls upon this item and it is up to you to exercise faith or not with this. But I have heard testimonies of people who did that and rubbed the cloth on a growth on their body or on their tummy and the growth disappeared and others became pregnant and so with all faith I held my scarf up, as well as my project assignment receipt! I rubbed the scarf on my head, when I got home on my house keys, car keys, debits cards and so on!


After the service, as I cleared a room, a lady smiled at me and said she knows me and asked if I went to Open Heavens and I said no, Jesus House and left! I later returned and she said “I know why you look so familiar, you always serve me when I come to Jesus House” and we just laughed and smiled about it. Another lady who happens to go to Jesus house then said Yes I know you, you are getting married right? I first of all said no and then I said oh sorry yes I am (I said this with faith) and she immediately got it and joined her faith with mine and said- of course you are! How can you say no? Your wedding is next year isn’t it? I said yes by God’s grace! Ladies and gentlemen, the Lord hears and I know that this is only the beginning of great things to come! Ameeen! I will continue to keep you updated as things progress!


The Lord is quick to answer prayers especially in environments of praise and anointing! This evening, I received an email from a lady on auto trader asking if my car was still available. She requested to view it as soon as possible and an appointment has been booked for tomorrow! if you notice, I don’t wait till my testimonies are complete to testify because I know and believe that every good work the Lord has started in me, He will surely see through to completion in Jesus’ Name! Amen! I declare that the viewing will successfully take place tomorrow and myself and my car will receive all favour before the eyes of the buyers and they will immediately request to buy the car and at a rate that will positively shock me! I know that by Monday, I will have a substantial amount in the bank and I will be back to give the full testimony not because of me but because I believe in the power of the Most High God and in Him I am confident! Brethren, rejoice with me and say Amen!


Here are the prayer points from the service! We were given thirty minutes to pray these points, I adjure you to tap into this anointing and pray them now for third minutes and I pray the Lord will extend His second touch to you!


1. Praise Him for what He has already done.

2. Father, whatever can stand between me and Your touch tonight, please destroy with Your blood.

3. Father, please touch me again and again.

4. Father, please complete what You started in my life.

5. Father, please perfect that which concerns me.

6. Father, restore unto me everything the devil has stolen from me.

7. Father, let my blessing begin to overflow to others.

8. Father, please turn me into a mighty vessel unto honour in your hand.

9. Father, please make my blessings permanent.

10. Father, show me Your Glory.

11. Father, show me Your Almightiness.

12. Father, just have mercy on me.

He then asked us to add our other personal requests! Ask God for a Christmas miracle, New year present and another one just to show His Glory! It is well with you. I left my house at 7:30am yesterday morning and got home at 9:30 am today; 26 hours later with only about two hours of sleep in between and about four hours from the night before! Extremely exhausting and a feat I thought was impossible but I made it, it was worth it and if given the opportunity, I would do it all over again because I encountered God! If this was a job condition though, I doubt I would have done it as it was extremely brutal but for the Almighty who gave me life, keeps me alive, YES YES and YES! Father for You, I will do everything and if anything, I am privileged to have such an amazing opportunity to serve You! Thank You Lord! Ladies and gentlemen, four more days till I relocate to Lagos! Please keep me in your prayers! God bless you all


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Good Evening ladies and gentlemen,

Hope you’re well and have had a great day at work, ministry, home, school? It is well! I started thinking of what to write for this post about a month ago and things have since progressed and by God’s Grace, I have two testimonies to include in this post. You may remember me writing about Rev Funke Adejumo’s sermon about excelling as a mother; this was directed towards parents in general.

My 12 year old nephew lives with my parents in Lagos! They currently take care of him and have done so for the past eight years! So, I decided to share the message with my mother and I also put the things she mentioned in practice. My nephew and I are very close and he speaks to me about very personal things and so I am in a good position to implement these things.

1- The first thing we did was to be positive and always encouraging! His report came back in July and he got 2As, a few Cs, Ps and Fs! We were quite disappointed but I told my mother that we should thank God for those 2As and praise the kid for even attaining that.

2- To however prevent him for becoming lazy and comfortable! I kept on congratulating him on the 2As but I always said “I am so happy and proud that you got these 2As but I’m shocked you didn’t get all As because you are so smart and you are the smartest boy in your class. I’m sure you will get all As next time”. I always reaffirmed the fact that he was the best, the smartest and the head and then I would say, don’t you know and he would say “yes I know i am”

Proverbs 23:7- For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he

By getting him to repeat and believe this, he is in turn becoming that smart person. By saying those positive words constantly, we are transforming his mind and speaking prophetically. Amen.

3- I noticed that he had received a Blackberry phone as his 12th birthday present and so I asked how many contacts he had and he showed me and to my amazement, there were about 70 of them. I had to go through them to ensure they were friends, only to discover he had added a series of people he didn’t know from broadcasts. At this time, the Cynthia Osokogu murder story was everywhere and I actually spoke to him about it and educated him about the dangers of social networks, blackberry messenger and interacting with strangers. He then understood what I meant and on his own, he deleted every single person he didn’t know.

4- I knew I had to speak to him about sex because if you don’t speak to them about it, believe me the TV will teach them! Think about when you were twelve and all that you knew! I asked him what he knew and he pretty much knew everything. I explained to him that as he gets older, there may be pressure to get into relationships and have sex but he is a child of the most High God and we should not conform to the standards of the world but he should rather save himself for marriage! We spoke about the sanctity of marriage and he even had the understanding that he wanted a Christian wife with high morals and standards and so I said if he expected that from his wife, he should do the same! I explained that sometimes he may feel a certain way to which he responded “Yes from my hormones”. I told him it was normal and came with puberty but he needed to ask the Holy Spirit to come and take control. Amen.

5- I had to speak to him about the value of women and how to treat them! I explained that when he was old enough to enter into a relationship, he had to pray to God about it first and go ahead only after confirmation from God! As a child, he has witnessed his own mother and several aunties being subjected to so much pain from bad relationships and he did agree that he would never want to put any woman through such pain. I explained that under no circumstance should he put hands on a woman or verbally insult her, neither should he attempt any sexual relations until they were married! I explained the value of women and their role as help meets.

6- I asked him about his strengths ad weaknesses and advised him on how to deal with the so-called weaknesses! I explained that he could be great at every and anything! Regarding his strengths, I banked on them and continually encouraged him! He’s good at maths, he said he would like to become an investment banker! I told him he would be one! He’s quite a tall lad standing at about 5″10 at only 12 years old and so he took an interest in basketball and so we decided that it was imperative for him to spend time playing basketball and so my sister’s fiancé, took him to a basketball court to train and we’re told he was really good. We’ve decided that he will spend his summers at basketball training from now; as long as that is still his passion. His talent and drive needs to be nurtured and harnessed!

7- In the past, he’s had several behavioural issues and used to be really “bad” in school but we tried never to focus on that. Even when he did misbehave, we never called him names! Instead when he was naughty, we would say “But you are such a good, mature child of God, why would you act like that?”. We focused on positively encouraging him and never using bad words on him; because children will remember the words and start to act accordingly.

8- Lastly, I spoke to him about the importance of a relationship with Christ and constant prayer! I encouraged him to indulge in morning devotionals daily, read his Bible, praise and worship and to always seek God! During the time we were together, we prayed together. I encouraged him to pray and I also prayed for him and prophesied greatness into his life! Even after returning to England, I called him on the phone, always praying for him and declaring he was a child of God who would serve God all his life, I declared he would be a well known NBA Player and investment banker! I never once insulted him even in his “naughty” moments but always sowed prayers into his life.

God answered

To the glory of God, mother called me last week to inform me that our darling smart boy had achieved SEVEN distinctions in his results, seven credits, one pass and no fails! Wow! This was a vast improvement; even the teachers were shocked! It was all to the glory of God and guess what? Poor nephew was stricken with chicken pox and was admitted into hospital and missed many days of school and continuous assessments. Supposing he hadn’t missed these, what would he have scored then? For many years, nephew got low grades, last in class and then became an average student, we tried every approach but couldn’t get him to improve! We bribed him with phones, laptops but no change but to the glory of God, after using Biblical principles and the advice by Rev Funke Adejumo, he is now an outstanding student and I know I will be back to testify about his next set of results because the good work that God has started in Him, He will surely see through to its completion in Jesus’ Name! Amen!


I would like to share the testimony of my first cousin! My cousin had her first child twenty years ago; it was a lovely beautiful girl but a second child was not forth coming at all! It just didn’t happen and we all got used to her being the only child and assumed she couldn’t have another! Well, God is an awesome God because after ten years my cousin found out she was pregnant and she had a beautiful baby boy who is nine years old today but the Lord didn’t stop there, two and a half years later, she had another boy who is 6 today! The two boys are extremely cute together and are the best of friends! But you know God is so marvellous, she had another baby in 2009; a cute princess who is 3years old and in August this year, she was blessed with another Princess! Now, my cousin and her husband are the proud parents of FIVE healthy, amazing and beautiful children (20, 9, 6, 3, 2months old)! Their first daughter is currently at Uni studying Computer Science while their four other kids are really giving them an event filled life! I am so happy for them and grateful to God for His mercies! Only God can open a door others think is closed; He is the one who opens a womb others have deemed shut!

May the Lord open every closed door in your life today and may He spring forth into action in every area of your life that has been deemed a failure! It is well with you and all that concerns you in Jesus’ Name! Amen! To watch the sermon by Rev Funke Adejumo (Excelling as a mother, April 22 2012)-

Every parent should watch it, every aunty, uncle, cousin, teacher, youth worker! In fact I believe every single person should watch it because we shall all be parents one day and we need to start practising these principles on our nephews, nieces, neighbours and so on.

You can read the summary I wrote here-

God bless you all


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Testimony time! She’s been blessed with the fruit of the womb

Good Morning all,

I hope you had a wonderful weekend; I enjoyed mine and I’m looking forward to my week! Now, I included this in an earlier post but I’m sure many of you missed it! Besides, this is too big a testimony, I believe we should celebrate God! One of our readers recently sent in this testimony below:

“praise the lord! our God is a prayer answering God. I have been looking for a child since 2008 and after using prescription drugs etc nothing was working, but i kept praying and declaring the word that i wanted to have children without medical intevention, knowing God can do it. Am not against meedical interventions for having chidren, i just know that God is bigger than medicine, so i kept praying, whilst seeking medical intervention. I was suppose to wait for IUI process and all of a sudden, i realised that i had missed my period, i did a test and it was positive, Praise God!. I thank him for granting me my heart desire according to how i have asked.”

Let’s begin to thank God for this miracle, let’s reverence Him and praise Him! Let’s thank God for this woman and her unborn child and decree a safe delivery for her! Let’s pray that the Lord who heard her cry will provide every necessary resource she needs to raise her child! Let’s pray that this child will grow up to be a Prince or Princess of Zion! The child shall never beg borrow or steal! Lack and want shall be far; very far from their address! Generations shall bless this child! AMEN! I declare a smooth and safe delivery! There shall be no death, accident, wastage, delay or disappointment! May she not have a miscarriage or any complications whatsoever! The child shall be delivered, healthy, happy, without any complications and disabilities! Oh, neither mother nor child shall suffer! The whole pregnancy and delivery shall be effortless and wonderful! AMEN!

I speak over all the others expectant mothers, may the Lord grant you a safe and effortless delivery! I declare over all those waiting on the fruit of the womb, before the end of the year, the Lord will surprise you! This time next year, you will sing a new song, dance a new dance and march out with your healthy babies! To all those who have been called barren, unfruitful, the Lord will disappoint your adversaries and surprise your doctors! Amen! What the Lord did for this reader, He will certainly do for you! Declare it over your life; no matter how many years you tried! Believe it today! Look at what He did for this reader who had been trying for four years; tap into her testimony and miracle; ask the Lord to do the same for you. For all those single, the Lord will do a new thing; you too will have a testimony soon! Thank You Jesus, thank You Father!

Please, I adjure you to praise and thank God on her behalf, congratulate her and send her your best wishes and prayers! You can read her testimony here and send her your love and prayers-

If any of you has been blessed, please send in your testimonies and let’s celebrate God! I hope this testimony has deeply encouraged someone and shown you that God is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all you could ever ask or imagine- Ephesians 3:20. May the Lord perfect all that concerns us and give us the faith to hold on to His promises! Amen! God bless you all.

For all the parents, expectant parents, please read-


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Excelling as a parent

Dear all,

I am sorry I didn’t post later in the day yesterday as promised, I had a hospital appointment after which I was extremely tired but we thank God! Please forgive me for not posting earlier.

Firstly, I need to share a testimony of one of our readers. This is what she said- 

Praise the lord! our God is a prayer answering God. I have been looking for a child since 2008 and after using prescription drugs etc nothing was working, but i kept praying and declaring the word that i wanted to have children without medical intevention, knowing God can do it. Am not against meedical interventions for having chidren, i just know that God is bigger than medicine, so i kept praying, whilst seeking medical intervention. I was suppose to wait for IUI process and all of a sudden, i realised that i had missed my period, i did a test and it was positive, Praise God!. I thank him for granting me my heart desire according to how i have asked.

Submitted at 7:31am- Please read it here-

So, this is part 2 of the series by Rev Funke Adejumo, she actually titled it as “How to excel as a mother”, however she did address both men and women and as such, I modified the title slightly so as not to alienate the men! By the way, even if you are not a parent, this will bless you. You’re still single, please read this to prepare! God will surely bless you. AMEN!

Mark 5

The society believes that children are the leaders of tomorrow but contemporary research in Psychology states that children are the leaders of today. Whatever values to fail to instil in them will stunt their leadership traits in future. Leadership traits are imbibed in them between 0-18 years old! Every moral, Biblical or societal norm you want to imbibe in them should done between these ages, otherwise, they may never be able to get them again without divine intervention.

A preserved childhood is better than a repaired adulthood. Therefore you must invest time in your children. You have 4 types of children.

1- Biological- The ones you gave birth to.

2- Natural- The ones that are married to your children.

3- Adopted- People that look up to you sometimes even without your knowledge.

4- Spiritual- The ones you mentor spiritually.

May you not be barren in any area of your life. Amen. You must understand that you belong to a family. The man and the woman must both be involved in the raising of your child; your child is an extension of your life; the generation of your child will either bless you or curse you depending on what you give to them. Many spouses are cursing their mothers-in-law, may that not be your portion. Rev Funke started praying for her kids even before she was married. “Every child that will ever lie in my womb will depopulate Hell. Every child that will ever suck on my breasts will honour God”

1- You must be a grateful parent.

Your child is a blessing in your life. It is a privilege and an honour to be called daddy or mummy. In the kingdom of God there are no achievers but receivers. It is a privilege for you to be blessed by God. Whatever you give thanks for can never die. Each time they bring their report cards home, gather the whole family to thank God. “Father I thank you for this report card, who am I to say I am even a parent”. Teach your children to be grateful by showing them your own gratitude. Whatever you thank God for can never die. Stop complaining that you don’t have sons, we can’t manufacture children. Be grateful to the Lord for whatever you have, you must be a grateful parent.

2- Where are the fathers?

When Jairus’ daughter was ill, it was the father that got up out of the house to look for a solution? Where are the fathers? Many of the fathers are absentee fathers, when last did you carry your children on your shoulders? Some of you, your children come up to you to for hugs and you say you are too busy. Where are the fathers? Many fathers today sexually abuse their children, beat their wives? One of the greatest gifts you can give your children is to love their mother. Treat her ith dignity and respect. Children don’t have eject buttons, they think whatever you do is the right thing. Let your children have a good memory of you, when you leave the house, do you give the mother a kiss? Fathers rise up and look for solutions. Where are the fathers?

3- Introduce your God to your children very early in life!

Proverbs 22:6- Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

God has no grand children, lead your children to the Lord by yourself. Give each of them a Bible and let them write and sign their salvation day at the back of the Bible. It is important that they have a sound and dynamic spiritual life. Pray with them, let them see you read the Bible, let them see you do family alters. Fathers don’t leave it to your wife! It will give you peace, when last did you have a prayer meeting or bible study day. Have a family night every week where you can speak and they can ask you questions. Be free with them and open, teach them about virginity, puberty and sex! If you don’t teach them, the television will! They will thank God for you. When a marriage breaks, the roof over child’s life is removed! Psychology has discovered that whoever is a product of a broken marriage has a 99% chance of having a broken marriage. Don’t let your children have step mothers, ten eyes are not better than your own. Every Jairus must wake up! Father’s don’t leave a vacuum in your family. If your Christianity does not work at home, don’t bother to export it!

4- Be an example of your spouse and show it!

Love your wife and show you children. How dare you lay your hands on your wife? Don’t beat your wife or husband! Be loving to your spouse in front of your children.

5- The fifth point is particularly for the women. Mothers, don’t let what your husband committed into your hands die!

A business, a child, a property, a ministry a department? Don’t let that child die! Some of us are too busy, with Church work, business and we don’t know whats happening in their lives! When your child complains, don’t shut them up, listen! A 5 year old girl was complaining that she didn’t want to go to school, the mother kept shutting her up. It was later discovered that she was sexually abused daily by the driver who takes he to school. When your child is complacent and closing up, listen, find out what the matter is! You are losing hat child, don’t let that child die in your hands! Whatever your husband has committed to your hands, don’t let it die! Labour in prayer over your children, if there are certain hereditary factors that run in your family, it may be an illness or negative behaviour, pray against it! Start praying for your children! Have a set time where you pray for your children, so your children will not fall victim to it. AMEN. Spend time to pray for your children! A child that is prayed for is a winning child

6- Befriend your children!

This is an important point; for parents and single people alike. In your life as a parent, there are just three seasons; no more no less.

In the first season, you are in charge of the child’s life! You tell them to sit, they sit! You send them to a particular School they have to go! Enjoy it while it lasts because it will soon end.

In the second season, the child is now in charge of his life- How many of you have to seek permission from your parents to travel or to read this blog? You are now in charge of your life.

In the third season, the child is now in charge of their life and your’s- They will tell their spouse, how you treated them and you will be treated in the same way! How you manage the first season, determines what you will enjoy in the third season; so, manage it well.

A season comes in life when your child is no longer a child but now your friend. Know when your children becomes you friend and when they need your respect. Don’t embarrass them in front of their friends.

What do you say to your children? Pastor EA Adeboye said when he was little, his mother proclaimed over him that when he calls one person, a hundred will answer! And true to her word, today when he calls, thousands answer. Declare great things over your children. Give them great and prophetic nicknames; you can call them Kingdom financiers, doctors, prophets, tell them they will save their generation and so on.

Mother of nations, what do you say to your children! Bless your children, make sure that words of life come out of your mouth! When your kids are still young, as a mother as a father, bless them, speak life over them! Pray for them, anoint them, lay hands on them, pray over their pictures! As a woman, touch your tummy or breast; they are your communication gadgets that your husband doesn’t have. You pray some prayers and the devil knows that he can never touch your own! Build confidence into your children! Tell them not to be proud but never to walk with their head down! Tell them to be proud that they are Christians, be proud that they carry your name! Be proud that you are a child of God, a believer! If your child is fat, don’t abuse or put them down! If they most lose weight, go for walks with them! Validate them! Exercise with them! Bless them; let them know they are important, don’t let them lose their self esteem! All the things you endured, don’t let them go through them. When they come home with their report cards, don’t look for the Fs. Look for the good grades and encourage them! Spend time with your children. Know your child! Understand that they are growing. One may be good at Maths, the other may not! Don’t compare your children! He may not be good at Maths; what about Art? Don’t kill your child’s dreams, for example Mike Murdock was chastised for talking too much but today that same mouth feeds him! Let your child talk; that may be what will feed him and you, not the maths that he studied!

7- Love your child!

When last did you write a letter to your child proclaiming how much you love and cherish them? Love your child and let the child know! Hug your child! Know your child and train your child!

Whether you are single or married, pray this prayer- Each child that I have, each of them will prosper, they will not beg from themselves! I shall not be barren, my children shall not be barren! In the evening of my life, I shall have peace! No matter what they become, they will serve God! Nothing shall stop them! Where I finished, shall be their starting point! Generations shall bless my household, generations shall bless my children. My children shall be a blessing, what kills their mates, will never kill my children! Each of my children will prosper, no matter how many they are! No matter the number I have, they will serve God! On their day of joy, nobody will represent me! None of my children will marry the wrong person! In the evening of my life, you will have rest!

Everyone believing God for the fruit of the womb, this time next year you will sing for joy! Tap into the testimony of the reader above and God will do it for you. All those who are not married, God will surprise you. Every storm in your home, be still! It is well with you! This will be the best of your years. AMEN!!

Thank You Lord! I pray this has blessed all the parents in the house and even those still waiting on the fruit of the womb! God bless and prosper you all. AMEN.

To listen to the message or to access other sermons from the conference and from Daystar, please visit this link:


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Raising Godly seed….Getting your kids through Church without them ending up hating God!

Hello again,

I’m coming up to a very busy weekend and would like to bless you with as many posts as possible, to occupy you when I’m busy. I am aware that a lot of our readers are parents and many are looking for the fruit of the womb! Even those of you that are still single, will end up parents one day. AMEN!

With the modernisation of almost everything, these days things are changing! Christianity is becoming difficult. We see it everywhere! Declining numbers in Church attendance, an increase in the divorce rate and an alarming number of children turning to crime and becoming miscreants! I know that one of the most painful things is raising a child only to watch that child become useless. God forbid!

There are many important issues to take into consideration but above all things, raise your child with love, care, diligence and in accordance with the word.

The responsibility of raising a Godly child lies within the parent and just like many other things in life, to see a good outcome, you as the parents must set an example for the Child; you have to be a great role model. As a psychologist, I will tell you that most children mirror the behaviour of one/both parents;whether good or bad.

Malachi 2:15-  Didn’t the Lord make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his. And what does he want? Godly children from your union. So guard your heart; remain loyal to the wife of your youth.

Pray with/for your children everyday! Never underestimate the power of prayer! Children like routine, just with their sleep, food and school, make sure there is a routine for prayer. As soon as they can speak, also get them involved in prayer. Let them know it’s something to be done always. When they are ill, pray for them and tell them why! When about to eat, pray together. When you are ill, even get them to pray for you. They’ll love it!

Proverbs 18:21: The tongue can bring death or life; those who love to talk will reap the consequences.

Teach them to be careful with their words! You also be careful! The tongue is powerful! Declare great things on them, regardless of the situation or performance! Even if your child comes last in class, tell him/her that you are surprised he didn’t come first because he/she is very intelligent. But, they need to work harder to come first next time. These are things you start from day 1; not when they are 10 or 19. Never insult your child; the words always stick; especially coming from a parent! I still remember the first time I was called an idiot, because it stung! I was only about 7 at the time but I remember very clearly!

When I was growing up,it seemed as if the Bible was an ornament of decoration. I didn’t know a single child who read theirs. Get them involved in Bible reading as soon as they can read, but start reading to them before that. Read the nice Bible stories and parables to them but even teach them memory verses and important principles in the Bible!

Find a good Church that has a good Sunday School! There are many lovely ones whilst others don’t do much teaching. Sit in and observe until you are happy, comfortable and find the right one! When taking your child, get them excited. Talk about God in such a glorious manner! Tell them they are going to God’s house and how He is the biggest King in the world, they should be excited! Let them be excited about Sunday School and always ask what they learned and get them to narrate the stories back to you and ask for the moral of the story.

A lot of our behaviour and thinking is as a result of the media we were exposed to whilst young. While your child should have a normal life, ensure they have a lot of Christian books, movies, tv shows and games! Many girls grow up as dependent women with low self-esteem because of the fairytales they watched as children, whilst a lot of men grow up to be violent and negligent because of what they watched on TV.

Teach your children to praise God! Be clear that everything they have is from God, from their pocket money to food to your house. Teach them to thank God for everything! Help them not to focus on material things but on more important things! Provide for them, work hard for them and teach them to be satisfied with what they have because that is what God gave them, they should never delve into self-comparison, envy or peer pressure! You need to teach them about this and pray with them on it.

Teach them the 10 commandments and basic morals and get more detailed with them as they grow older! Teach them about forgiveness and the importance of never keeping malice.

No matter your profession or commitment in ministry, charity begins at home! Many Church leaders and career men/women get so involved in their ministry or work that they neglect raising their children! Don’t compromise the time you spend with them, nurture them, advise them, teach them, do their homework with them and play with them. Let them feel comfortable speaking to you. As they grow older, educate them on issues such as abstinence from sex, drugs, alcohol and cigarettes. Teach them about the Lord’s temple; their body! Let them know how precious and valuable it is; so never to get into any illicit forms of sex or substance abuse and teach them about physical and sexual abuse. You would be surprised to know how many children are abused even under the roof of their parents. You need to teach them this and explain that they must always be honest with you if such a thing happens.

Teach them the importance of parents, Pastors and Police. The importance of a family unit and why they must serve God and decide to do it even after they have left your care!

You may be Catholic, Pentecostal or Orthodox but never bash other Christian denominations to them because many parents lose their children from Church and the day your child returns, you will pray for them to go to Church, any Church! So, let them have an open mind.

Teach your children about respect and obedience to their parents, elders and community at large! Raise them to be respectful, God fearing children. When you give them money or when they get money as gifts, from as little as toddlers, teach them about offerings and tithes! Don’t teach them as a sacrifice but as an act of worship and they should be happy and excited to do this. As they grow older, teach them the percentage calculation for calculating/paying their tithes and they will continue. AMEN.

As soon as you have children, please write a will if you haven’t already! No matter how young you are. Unfortunately, sad things happen all the time and you need to make sure that your children are taken care of.

Many of us hire nannies, house helps and so on. Many a time, these people treat our children with neglect, many of them have been known to abuse children. Be careful of who you hire, ensure you screen them and even get an overview of their background. Ask God for direction when entrusting your child with such people, if possible only hire genuinely born again staff members and always pray for them. As much as possible, spend a lot of time with your children, even if you have staff assisting, try to be present for the most part.

While your child grows up, difficult things may occur; such as sickness, loss of a pet, death of a family member. Deal with these things and be open and confident about it! Teach them about God and life after death in Heaven. So, they grow up knowing that these things occur but God is always looking after us! If you teach a chid about God right from birth and always ensure God is the genuine centre and head of your family, you can’t go wrong! Your child won’t be able to live without God! Also make them aware of the less privileged people, the poor, orphans, widows and disabled people. Show them they are blessed because they aren’t in that position and teach them to share their belongings with the needy right from a young age and it won’t depart from them.

Children are human beings after all and they may make some mistakes and get up to mischief! Always correct your child firmly! They will learn that way. The Bible says in Proverbs 13:24- “He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes”. In other words, give your child a good discipline when they have done wrong. You don’t need to go overboard but be firm and consistent always. They must learn to pay the price for their mischief.

Many parents however get it wrong by teaching their child about God but acting very contrary! Don’t swear, curse or insult in front of your child or ever! Many parents even get their children to lie for them “tell the neighbours i’m not home”, whilst many women take money without their husband’s permission and laugh it off with their child. NEVER EVER commit sin in front of your child; you will be teaching them to do that! Be a great example to your child and watch God bless you. Your Christianity will surely be contagious!

Remember, love, care, pray and embrace your child always.

Proverbs 22:6- Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

 God bless


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The uncommon woman conference 2012

The female ministry of RCCG Jesus House, will be hosting it’s first ever ladies’ conference; themed “The uncommon woman”. The event will be held at Jesus House, on Friday the 20th of July 2012; 6:30-9pm and Saturday the 21st of July 2012 from 9:30am till 4pm.

ImageThe event is organised by the in-house women’s ministry- Esthers!! The Esthers Ministry is dedicated to raising women of virtue, influencing and transforming lives through the honourable God-given authority and wisdom.

The conference is going to be empowering, exciting, fun, mind transforming and ON FIRE! Do not miss out on this, ladies!! My highest readership is from the UK! So, please ladies, make the time to come down for this. It will surely bless you. Tickets cost £15 ONLY!! There will be four speakers at the conference:

  • Rev. Celia Apeagyei-Collins
  • Pastor Abby Olufeyimi
  • Pastor Sola Irukwu
  • Pastor Funke Adeaga

See you there!!

Jesus House for all Nations,

112 Brent Terrace,

Brent Cross,



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