Good Afternoon beautiful people,
How is your Wednesday going? On with today’s message…If you are not Nigerian, then your probably did not understand the title of this post. Well, “marry well” simply means marry right! Make the right choice; in fact the rightest choice! This is a phrase I hear mostly from Pastor Kingsley & Mildred Okonkwo; so it’s no surprise that today’s post is about them.
Last year June, I was moving out of my previous home in the Midlands. I packed up all my belongings into my car and headed for the motorway. However, before I left, I decided to make one last stop at my friend’s house. I’d known her for about six years and she’s an extremely inspirational christian till this day so I decided to stop by and just thank her for everything. Whilst there, she said she had to put some messages on my iPod quickly and I told her I was rushing off but she persevered and was able to complete the transfer. So, I thanked her, we hugged and I left. I completely forgot about the messages, especially as I don’t use the iPod except as a USB. However, about six weeks later at my home in London, I remembered the messages my dear friend had put on my iPod and I decided to listen to them. Wow! I got the shock of my life!
The Pastor was extremely real, wise, funny, amazing and just anointed! I cried, I laughed, I bowed to God and I just felt a release! For the next two days, I locked myself indoors and just listened to all the messages, back to back from morning to night! I couldn’t get enough! Within two days, I had listened to them (all twenty hours worth of sermons). It was like receiving a rhema! I just had this new lease on life, this new spring in my step and a renewed mind! It was during those two days that the vision of “Princess of Zion” was birthed! The sermons I listened to were by Pastor Kingsley & Mildred Okonkwo! I was intrigued, humbled, amazed! I had never heard anything like this. Who were these people? So I went on the internet and did some research! I discovered that they were a successful, anointed married couple pastoring a Church and their specific passion was family and marriage. I looked at their website, I listened to all the messages on the website. I also discovered they held a monthly programme called “Love, Dating & Marriage” aka LDM, I went to that website, listened to all the messages, I found their page on Facebook, listened to all the messages, I couldn’t stop! I later discovered their services were broadcast live, so I switched my Church routine to evening service and stayed home in the mornings to watch their two morning services! I was just blessed! I was fed! It was just amazing! I couldn’t keep shut; I wanted everyone I knew to hear these things, I sent the messages across to my friends, family, I sent them to different people across the country! I think that just fuelled my passion; I just wanted everyone in the world to hear about God’s love and what we mean to Him and why we should keep ourselves holy and be very prayerful and careful in the search for a spouse! After I had sent the sermons to every possible person, that’s when I knew I wanted to go into tho ministry so I could spread this new knowledge and resources to other people. I mean, why should these benefits be limited to just my friends? What about the rest of the world?
As time went on, my own passion grew more and I started to attend other seminars, buy books, CDs, it was just an amazing experience. One day, I was led to just reach out to Pastor K&M via their Facebook Fan Page, I just told them what they’ve done and how they’ve positively impacted my life and when they do come to London, I would love to meet them. I had no clue what their schedule was or when they would next be in London, it could be a year or six months or three days, I didn’t know but I just wanted to meet them whenever that time came. As God would have it, I got a response the following day saying they were in London at the time and I should contact them via phone. We text back and forth and arranged to meet. I met with both of them at their Hotel; it was a brief meeting but it was just finally good to meet them and they were so humble, vibrant and lovely. This was in April this year and I’ve since kept in contact with them and whenever I have issues, queries, I just reach them and they’re so quick to respond and give me counsel. They’re extremely patient, loving and caring! I couldn’t ask for better mentors! As a couple, they are extremely sweet, perfectly suited and vibrant! As you know when I went to Lagos, I finally attended their Church and it was absolutely phenomenal!
The day after I returned from Lagos, Pastor K sent me a message about Pastor Mildred’s birthday! He said he had planned a surprise trip for her. They’re based in Lagos but he had bought tickets for them to fly to America so she could attend the Joyce Meyer Love Life Convention in ST Louis. Pastor M had no clue. I just thought- Wow! Anyway, let me just tell you what happened. On Monday the 19th of September, a week before her birthday, he told Pastor M that they had to pick someone up from the airport in Lagos. So, they both went to the MMA in Nigeria and the next thing, they were on an upper class flight to London. She was absolutely stunned; he gave her no prior notice at all and he did all the packing and snuck the suitcases into the car. When they arrived in London, myself and four other ladies (members of DCC) were waiting for them with a 5 foot long banner that read “Still crazy about Mildred Okonkwo” we had balloons there, a lovely bouquet of flowers and a cake! You should have seen her face; she immediately froze and started nudging her husband! There was a huge crowd in Heathrow, all watching this romantic scene; like it was a movie! She was extremely shocked, happy and in awe of how all this was planned without her knowing. We escorted them to the Sheraton Hotel where they stayed for the night before catching their transit flight to Chicago the next day. We got to the Hotel, prayed, ordered some lovely chinese food, cut the cake, ate, drank and just had a great time! We gave her some cards and just had a party! After sometime, we left and in the morning, they were on their way to America where she had even more surprises waiting for her! This was all for her birthday!
Pastor K kept thanking us for helping him organise the London leg of the surprise but I was more thankful for being part of such a beautiful thing and witnessing first hand what a Godly marriage is about! Ladies, that is why i say “marry well”. This sounds like something straight out of a movie but it is real and I haven’t even narrated everything! It was absolutely romantic, selfless and wonderful of him to do that and it shows how much love he has for her and how much effort he puts into loving his wife and making their marriage sweet. The icing on the cake is that, for many years, Pastor Mildred had been decreeing that one day, she would be at a Joyce Meyer conference; in actual fact, days before this surprise, she even said it and Pastor K just responded by saying “AMEN” not knowing he had already secured her place at one! I mean, God is just great! They went upper class, great service, 5 star hotels and had a luxury filled holiday but remember that when they got married, it wasn’t like this!
Pastor K makes it clear that when he married her he had no income, he wasn’t rich materially but he was rich in faith! At the time, she was well educated and had a Master’s degree while he only had an OND! Yet, these things did not deter or stop her from seeing the Godly man he was and today, she is enjoying her marriage and is experiencing true marital bliss. Ladies and gentlemen, “marry well”! Don’t marry for money, security or for the person’s looks or body, marry right and ask God to lead you. So, you too can experience joy and eternal bliss in your marriage. Mind you, Pastor M makes it clear that it hasn’t been a walk in the park; there’s been financial issues, infertility amongst other things but God has seen them through it all and everyday it’s worth it! May that be your testimony in Jesus’ Name!
To an absolutely beautiful, wonderful, lovely, humble and inspiration couple, thank you! The PoZ family sincerely appreciate you and we pray that your marriage and ministry will continue to stand the test of time and grow from strength to strength, from glory to glory! It shall be well with you and all that concerns you! The way you have blessed us, the Lord shall magnify and bless you two! He shall incase you and enlarge your coast! Pastor K & Pastor M, I love you and I am glad, proud and honoured to have you as my Pastors, mentors, parents and friends! You are amazing!
Below, are more pictures from the surprise.
For more information about Pastor Kingsley & Mildred Okonkwo, please visit
Their Church Website- http://www.davidschristiancentre.org
LDM Website- http://www.lovedatingandmarriage.org
To watch their sermons- www.ustream.tv/user/dccldm
Facebook Page- www.facebook.com/PastorKingsleyandMildredOkonkwo?fref=ts
Pastor Mildred’s blog (first hand account of the surprise also here)- http://www.justusgirlsnaija.wordpress.com
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I hope this has inspired you to hold on and wait for that Godly spouse you have been praying for! May you not settle for anyone less than you deserve! Remember, you can have the marriage of your dreams and in fact, the Lord will exceed all your expectations and your marriage will be a testimony! Amen! Married folk, take a cue from Pastor K, it isn’t too late to show your spouse how special they are to you. God bless you all
Someone shared this prayer with me yesterday and I know it will bless the ladies- both single and married
Praying for my husband
His Head –That he will look to You as Lord of his life. (1 Corinthians 11:13)
His Mind – That he will have the mind of Christ and think as the Holy Spirit would lead him and not the flesh. (1 Corinthians 2:16)
His Eyes –That You will keep his eyes from temptation and that he will turn his eyes from sin. (Matthew 6:13, Mark 9:47)
His Ears – That he will hear Your still small voice instructing him. (1 Kings 19:12, Psalm 32:8)
His Mouth – That his words will be pleasing to You. (Psalm 19:14)
His Neck –That he will humble himself before You and be strong, courageous, and careful to do everything written in Your Word so that he will be prosperous and successful. (James 4:10, Joshua 1:8-9)
His Heart-That he will love and trust You with his whole heart. (Deuteronomy 6:5, Proverbs 3:5)
His Arms-That You will be his strength. (Psalm 73:26)
His Hands-That he will enjoy the work of his hands and see it as a gift from You. (Ecclesiastes 3:13, 5:19)
His feet – That You will order his steps and that he will walk in Your truth. (Proverbs 4:25, Psalm 26:3)