Marry well

Good Afternoon beautiful people,

How is your Wednesday going? On with today’s message…If you are not Nigerian, then your probably did not understand the title of this post. Well, “marry well” simply means marry right! Make the right choice; in fact the rightest choice! This is a phrase I hear mostly from Pastor Kingsley & Mildred Okonkwo; so it’s no surprise that today’s post is about them.

Last year June, I was moving out of my previous home in the Midlands. I packed up all my belongings into my car and headed for the motorway. However, before I left, I decided to make one last stop at my friend’s house. I’d known her for about six years and she’s an extremely inspirational christian till this day so I decided to stop by and just thank her for everything. Whilst there, she said she had to put some messages on my iPod quickly and I told her I was rushing off but she persevered and was able to complete the transfer. So, I thanked her, we hugged and I left. I completely forgot about the messages, especially as I don’t use the iPod except as a USB. However, about six weeks later at my home in London, I remembered the messages my dear friend had put on my iPod and I decided to listen to them. Wow! I got the shock of my life!

The Pastor was extremely real, wise, funny, amazing and just anointed! I cried, I laughed, I bowed to God and I just felt a release! For the next two days, I locked myself indoors and just listened to all the messages, back to back from morning to night! I couldn’t get enough! Within two days, I had listened to them (all twenty hours worth of sermons). It was like receiving a rhema! I just had this new lease on life, this new spring in my step and a renewed mind! It was during those two days that the vision of “Princess of Zion” was birthed! The sermons I listened to were by Pastor Kingsley & Mildred Okonkwo! I was intrigued, humbled, amazed! I had never heard anything like this. Who were these people? So I went on the internet and did some research! I discovered that they were a successful, anointed married couple pastoring a Church and their specific passion was family and marriage. I looked at their website, I listened to all the messages on the website. I also discovered they held a monthly programme called “Love, Dating & Marriage” aka LDM, I went to that website, listened to all the messages, I found their page on Facebook, listened to all the messages, I couldn’t stop! I later discovered their services were broadcast live, so I switched my Church routine to evening service and stayed home in the mornings to watch their two morning services! I was just blessed! I was fed! It was just amazing! I couldn’t keep shut; I wanted everyone I knew to hear these things, I sent the messages across to my friends, family, I sent them to different people across the country! I think that just fuelled my passion; I just wanted everyone in the world to hear about God’s love and what we mean to Him and why we should keep ourselves holy and be very prayerful and careful in the search for a spouse! After I had sent the sermons to every possible person, that’s when I knew I wanted to go into tho ministry so I could spread this new knowledge and resources to other people. I mean, why should these benefits be limited to just my friends? What about the rest of the world?

As time went on, my own passion grew more and I started to attend other seminars, buy books, CDs, it was just an amazing experience. One day, I was led to just reach out to Pastor K&M via their Facebook Fan Page, I just told them what they’ve done and how they’ve positively impacted my life and when they do come to London, I would love to meet them. I had no clue what their schedule was or when they would next be in London, it could be a year or six months or three days, I didn’t know but I just wanted to meet them whenever that time came. As God would have it, I got a response the following day saying they were in London at the time and I should contact them via phone. We text back and forth and arranged to meet. I met with both of them at their Hotel; it was a brief meeting but it was just finally good to meet them and they were so humble, vibrant and lovely. This was in April this year and I’ve since kept in contact with them and whenever I have issues, queries, I just reach them and they’re so quick to respond and give me counsel. They’re extremely patient, loving and caring! I couldn’t ask for better mentors! As a couple, they are extremely sweet, perfectly suited and vibrant! As you know when I went to Lagos, I finally attended their Church and it was absolutely phenomenal!

The day after I returned from Lagos, Pastor K sent me a message about Pastor Mildred’s birthday! He said he had planned a surprise trip for her. They’re based in Lagos but he had  bought tickets for them to fly to America so she could attend the Joyce Meyer Love Life Convention in ST Louis. Pastor M had no clue. I just thought- Wow! Anyway, let me just tell you what happened. On Monday the 19th of September, a week before her birthday, he told Pastor M that they had to pick someone up from the airport in Lagos. So, they both went to the MMA in Nigeria and the next thing, they were on an upper class flight to London. She was absolutely stunned; he gave her no prior notice at all and he did all the packing and snuck the suitcases into the car. When they arrived in London, myself and four other ladies (members of DCC) were waiting for them with a 5 foot long banner that read “Still crazy about Mildred Okonkwo” we had balloons there, a lovely bouquet of flowers and a cake! You should have seen her face; she immediately froze and started nudging her husband! There was a huge crowd in Heathrow, all watching this romantic scene; like it was a movie! She was extremely shocked, happy and in awe of how all this was planned without her knowing. We escorted them to the Sheraton Hotel where they stayed for the night before catching their transit flight to Chicago the next day. We got to the Hotel, prayed, ordered some lovely chinese food, cut the cake, ate, drank and just had a great time! We gave her some cards and just had a party! After sometime, we left and in the morning, they were on their way to America where she had even more surprises waiting for her! This was all for her birthday!

Pastor K kept thanking us for helping him organise the London leg of the surprise but I was more thankful for being part of such a beautiful thing and witnessing first hand what a Godly marriage is about! Ladies, that is why i say “marry well”. This sounds like something straight out of a movie but it is real and I haven’t even narrated everything! It was absolutely romantic, selfless and wonderful of him to do that and it shows how much love he has for her and how much effort he puts into loving his wife and making their marriage sweet. The icing on the cake is that, for many years, Pastor Mildred had been decreeing that one day, she would be at a Joyce Meyer conference; in actual fact, days before this surprise, she even said it and Pastor K just responded by saying “AMEN” not knowing he had already secured her place at one! I mean, God is just great! They went upper class, great service, 5 star hotels and had a luxury filled holiday but remember that when they got married, it wasn’t like this!

Pastor K makes it clear that when he married her he had no income, he wasn’t rich materially but he was rich in faith! At the time, she was well educated and had a Master’s degree while he only had an OND! Yet, these things did not deter or stop her from seeing the Godly man he was and today, she is enjoying her marriage and is experiencing true marital bliss. Ladies and gentlemen, “marry well”! Don’t marry for money, security or for the person’s looks or body, marry right and ask God to lead you. So, you too can experience joy and eternal bliss in your marriage. Mind you, Pastor M makes it clear that it hasn’t been a walk in the park; there’s been financial issues, infertility amongst other things but God has seen them through it all and everyday it’s worth it! May that be your testimony in Jesus’ Name!

To an absolutely beautiful, wonderful, lovely, humble and inspiration couple, thank you! The PoZ family sincerely appreciate you and we pray that your marriage and ministry will continue to stand the test of time and grow from strength to strength, from glory to glory! It shall be well with you and all that concerns you! The way you have blessed us, the Lord shall magnify and bless you two! He shall incase you and enlarge your coast! Pastor K & Pastor M, I love you and I am glad, proud and honoured to have you as my Pastors, mentors, parents and friends! You are amazing!

Below, are more pictures from the surprise.

For more information about Pastor Kingsley & Mildred Okonkwo, please visit

Their Church Website-

LDM Website-

To watch their sermons-

Facebook Page-

Pastor Mildred’s blog (first hand account of the surprise also here)-

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I hope this has inspired you to hold on and wait for that Godly spouse you have been praying for! May you not settle for anyone less than you deserve! Remember, you can have the marriage of your dreams and in fact, the Lord will exceed all your expectations and your marriage will be a testimony! Amen! Married folk, take a cue from Pastor K, it isn’t too late to show your spouse how special they are to you. God bless you all

Someone shared this prayer with me yesterday and I know it will bless the ladies- both single and married

Praying for my husband

His Head –That he will look to You as Lord of his life. (1 Corinthians 11:13)
His Mind – That he will have the mind of Christ and think as the Holy Spirit would lead him and not the flesh. (1 Corinthians 2:16)
His Eyes –That You will keep his eyes from temptation and that he will turn his eyes from sin. (Matthew 6:13, Mark 9:47)
His Ears – That he will hear Your still small voice instructing him. (1 Kings 19:12, Psalm 32:8)
His Mouth – That his words will be pleasing to You. (Psalm 19:14)
His Neck –That he will humble himself before You and be strong, courageous, and careful to do everything written in Your Word so that he will be prosperous and successful. (James 4:10, Joshua 1:8-9)
His Heart-That he will love and trust You with his whole heart. (Deuteronomy 6:5, Proverbs 3:5)
His Arms-That You will be his strength. (Psalm 73:26)
His Hands-That he will enjoy the work of his hands and see it as a gift from You. (Ecclesiastes 3:13, 5:19)
His feet – That You will order his steps and that he will walk in Your truth. (Proverbs 4:25, Psalm 26:3)



Filed under Finding "Mr. Right", Finding "Mrs. Right", Keeping my marriage alive, Marriage/Courtship, Singles, Waiting on my future spouse

17 responses to “Marry well

  1. Eva

    Hi POZ
    I am married and happily so
    I am one of those babes that ‘married well’and thought my husband was the most romantic man alive but reading this made my jaws drop lol.
    I didn’t see it coming at all, may God bless their marriage and keep them as an inspiration to the rest of us AMEN!

    our story is very similar with the Okonkwos in terms of how we started ,as newly weds we lived in a house with leaking roofs and had to get bowls and bucket whrn it started raining,one positioned right in the middle of our matress on the floor Lol and now story has changed to the glory of God

    He has kept us together for almost 10years not without problems Anyway but mostly UPs than Downs and I want to encourage singles out there that it doesn’t matter what you were in the past, if it could happen to me,it can happen for you.Its mind boggling how some of our sisters are so materialistic pls keep ringing Into their ears for them to ‘marry well’, get a man with purpose that is living for God.

    Meanwhile, POZ it seems I’ve been living under the rock because I don’t know who they are.
    Kindly direct me on how I could get their messages over the Internet
    Thanks and good to have you back.

    • WOW Eva,

      I am sorry but I have to be so blunt and say that you are a true woman of virtue! You are a real woman; a Princess of Zion and child of the Most High God! I have tears in my eyes as I type this because your story is just so beautiful and amazing! In those few words, I can only imagine the sort of woman you are and what a great man you have married! Wow! The Lord will continue to bless your home and thousands shall hear the story of your marriage! Your marriage shall grow from strength to strength and the Lord will always be the centre of your marriage!

      You are very right about how materialistic people can be; but the truth is that finances change everyday! People go from broke to millionaires in one second whilst many become bankrupt in a milli second! The only thing permanent is God and if your intending spouse had God and has faith, that is worth more than his bank account! You certainly married right and I can only imagine the example you have set for your children and I am sure they will grow up to be Princes and Princesses of Zion that will make you proud!

      Eva, I would really love you to send us something I can post about your marriage testimony- In reference to this

      I made a call out for married couples to send us their testimony! Our readers would certainly appreciate hearing from you. Please when you do have time, send me an email

      Your name/details will not be published unless you ask me to. It will certainly inspire others and reinforce the importance of focusing on the right things and not money, money, money.

      God bless you Eva! He will continue to uphold, empower, strengthen, inspire, proper and bless you, your husband, your home and all that concerns you. AMEN.

      • eva

        Hi POZ,
        I wonder why I didn’t get a follow-up to my comment.
        The irony is I did show him that post and wanted him to write a testimony in his words
        lets just say , the man is too busy and quite frankly I really want to know his opinion about our marriage
        incase I am the only one over the moon with our marriage lol (hope not)

      • Hi Eva,

        I instantly responded to you dear! Hope you’ve seen my extensive reply, I was greatly intrigued by your comment as I’m sure the readers were too! I am sure he is just as over the moon as you; if not more! Godly men do appreciate good things! My dear, we would love to hear your testimony regardless of who writes it but you are right; a male perspective would be quite interesting too! God bless you love!

  2. Eva

    Pls disregard my asking where to find their messages
    I guess i didn’t see it earlier because I am browsing with a phone
    Thanks for the information
    God bless you richly

  3. Ade Ibironke

    Thank you for your post. I have been blessed my them after discovering their ministry on your blog. I have tried to listen to the messages on their website and ustream but have been unsuccessful. I wonder what I am doing wrong?

    • Hi Ade,
      You are most welcome. They are indeed an inspirational couple. Wow, what do you listen to them with? It might be that you require flash player. Please let me know what you use and I will try to help. Otherwise, I can try to send some to you.

  4. Ade Ibironke

    Hi POZ,
    I think I just realized the fact that it might be the flash player issue. I was using an ipad previously. I will try viewing on my laptop and let you know how that goes. Thanks.

  5. Talitha Cumi

    This post brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for introducing me to Pastor K and Pastor M, POZ. Their messages have been such a blessing to me. For the first time, I’m starting to believe that some people can have truly beautiful marriages. Maybe one day I’ll be able to see it happening to me.

  6. Such a romantic and encouraging story.

  7. Presh

    Wow,princess of zion..happy i came across your blog..its really funny cos the same way you came across Pm and Pk is the same way i met them too..A friend transferred the messages to me,i listened to them and was blessed,they were on my playlist,i made vital adjustments,then i decided to google them, then i came across a lot,contacted them on facebook..yea,though i’m yet to meet her but i know i’ll have dat opportunity soon..thanks for your blog dear

    • Dear Presh,

      Thanks for your comment; it is greatly appreciated.

      Apologies for my unexplained absence and extremely delayed response.

      Wow, what an amazing story. Do endeavour to worship at their Church. It’s an amazing experience.

      Stay blessed,

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