Good day all,
I hope you are all having a great day! We thank God for helpers of destiny, yesterday Aramide, brought to my attention The Day Star women’s conference, which included amazing speakers, Rev Funke Adejumo, Pastor Nike Adeyemi and Pastor Esther Benenoch! Thank you so much Aramide, may the Lord bless you, keep and prosper all you and your’s. Amen.
I want to share with you what Rev. Funke Adejumo preached, she spoke about three things- Excelling as a woman, excelling as a wife and excelling as a mother! I will be sharing all three messages with you! This afternoon, we will be looking at excelling as a wife! Men, before you switch off, this is for you too! The message is built to speak to both men and women!!
2 Samuel 3:1
A house can be strong and a house can be weak, depending on what it’s been built on! Marriage can be sweet or delicious depending on the cutlery you use to eat it! A good marriage takes work but it takes two people
Genesis 2:18- It is not good for man to be alone, I will make him an help meet for him.
What is a helpmeet? Someone to surround him! You were created to surround your husband; as a woman! The man was created because God wanted to; the woman was created because she was needed! You were created because you were/are needed
Tell yourself- “I am needed”. So, don’t go around with a low self esteem, your husband needs you and if you’re not married, tell yourself “There’s a man out there that needs me”. Yes!
On the other hand, if you’re a wife and you’re not meeting the needs of your husband, in the words of Rev Funke, you are a colossal waste Surround your husband and help Him! Some people are present but they cant help, others can help but aren’t present! Thank God that He is our ever-present help
As a woman, you are 7 things to your husband and as a man, there a 5 things you should be to your wife.
1- As a woman you are a helper!
The one who you are helping must be stronger than you! Once you are married, you are somebody’s helper and the helper is meant to have what the person’s need! As a wife, you are meant to surround your husband! Women are natural keepers; men take care of your wives so your life can be long! The woman is your helper. Treasure your wife, let her feel important!! Let your wife know that she is important. Women, you are your husband’s helper, stop looking helter skelter! You are there to help him and God will reward you.
2- As a woman, you are a builder!!
Proverbs 14:1- A wise woman buildeth her home! We need wisdom to build. You must know when to speak, when to keep quiet, when to comfort, when to build!
3- As a woman you are a servant!
Titus 2:4-5- These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children, 5 to live wisely and be pure, to work in their homes, to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God.
You are a cook, cleaner, laundry woman and nanny!
When last did you love him and lay his head on your chest? When last did you run up behind him and kiss him?
Once a bride, always a bride!! Stop calling him daddy or papa Joseph!! He is your husband! You are a servant, not a slave
4- You are an intercessor!
Prayer cover him, satan proof him, Delilah proof your husband! If God has blessed you with a husband, pray for him. The praying woman is a winning woman; at certain times, just pray for your husband!! No matter how happy you are in your marriage, never stop praying for your husband! In case you don’t know, some people are not happy that you are happy? That husband you think is useless, some people are queuing to marry him. Take care of your home; no matter where you go, come back to your home!
5- As a woman, you are a lover!
Some women forget that you are a lover! Every man is attracted by what he sees, while a woman is attracted by what she hears. That is how we are wired! If you are an old bride beside your husband, you will push him to a Delilah! The male species like variety, even Christian men can be tempted! Therefore, you must be many things to your husband! Become unpredictable in marriage! Wear your hair differently, dress differently!
You should have two types of nightwear, the general ones and the ones only your husband can see you in; you know what I mean. Look lovely for your husband; remind him of what he has. Make the room you share have a wonderful ambience!
Touch your husband! A woman needs 13 meaningful touches a day! Remain romantic! Don’t be an old ugly bride around your husband; walk hard to retain your shape! You must be romantic and spontaneous! Befriend your husband, if you don’t befriend him, you will wake up one day and find a huge emotional gap! Don’t let your ministry or career cause a rift between you
6- As a woman you are a covering!
Look at Genesis 21:9-10
What a man can’t see, a woman can see! So, as a man learn to listen to your woman! Be careful when your wife warns you about a particular business or a friendship or woman, listen to her and try to understand her! Don’t tell your wife to shut up. As a woman, protect your husband, defend him!
7- You are a keeper, an assignment!
For example, he gives you sperm; you keep it, deliver a child and nurture that child! He tells you his vision, you keep it in mind and help nurture and bring it to pass. AMEN.
For the men, as a man, you are a five fold ministry to your wife
1- You must protect your wife- from wicked in-laws, don’t let your family or even her family oppress her.
2- Provide for your wife- There are two types of husbands, a man of means and a mean man.
3- You must prefer her, when last did you open the car door for her? Honour your wife; let her know she’s important! Pamper her! Drive her on those long and inconvenient journeys, if there’s only one car, give her prioritized access to it.
4- Prevent something’s from happening to her! There are things that should never occur to your wife. Don’t let them happen
5- Permit her to enjoy life, to shine! You say your wife is not beautiful! Give her £10,000 and send her on holiday for two weeks, by the time she returns you wont even know it is her. Some of you don’t know your wife’s shoe or bra size.
I ask that grace be multiplied to every marriage home and family! We pray against every storm of marriage, may they never afflict your marriage, may the head of the Lord rest upon your marriage. AMEN! To the widowed, separated and divorced, may the Lord be your helper!! Your worst is behind you; the Garden of Eden is ahead of you. Your best is yet to come. AMEN. To all the single, by this time next year, you will sing a beautiful song! AMEN!! Lastly, thank you Lord for this message, for Pastor Funke who delivered this message and for Aramide who brought it to our attention! Thank You Jesus! Bless their homes, ministries and careers. AMEN.