The devil does not have power over a Christian. Rather, he uses tricks on Christians. Any Christian that is deceived by the devil suffers affliction the same way Adam and Eve suffered affliction when they were deceived by the devil in the Garden of Eden.
One of the major tricks the devil uses to cause delayed marriages, separation and divorce is called the trick of soul mate.
What is the Trick of Soul Mate?
This is the trick the devil uses to make people believe they have soul mates. The devil uses this trick to deceive people into believing their marriages can only be successful if they marry their soul mates. This trick is a major cause of delayed marriages, separation and divorce in the world today.
Does Soul Mate Exist?
A soul mate does not exist. It is a trick of the devil. No one on earth has a soul mate. There are no two persons on earth that are compatible. Compatibility is a state where two people feel alike, think alike and act alike. It is a state of no conflict. Such state does not exist on earth. Even identical twins are not compatible. There is no particular person you have to marry in order to have a successful marriage. What makes a marriage successful is not the person you marry but your willingness to tolerate, forgive and workout your marriage. It will interest you to note that there is no mention of soul mate in the Bible. If soul mate exists, it would have been mentioned in the Bible. If soul mate does not exist, how then did it originate?
What is Soul Mate?
A soul mate can be defined as a person with whom one has a deep affinity or compatibility. It simply means the person one should marry to have a successful marriage. It can also be defined as the other half of one’s soul.
The Origin of Soul Mate – Aristophanes
Aristophanes, the greatest comedian of all ages, cracked a joke in a symposium in 416 BC. In his comedy, he joked that man originally had four legs, two heads, and two sexual organs (one female and one male). But God feared their power and split every human being into half. He said that since the splitting, human beings have been searching for the other halves, which are their soul mates.
Attendees of the symposium enjoyed the joke and laughed so much that other comedians picked up the topic. With time, film producers and writers started developing story lines on soul mates.
The doctrine of soul mate is not real. It is a trick of the devil.
How it Causes Delayed Marriage
The trick of soul mate makes singles to unknowingly search for perfect beings they would marry. The truth is that if soul mate exists and one marries his soul mate, the couple will be a perfect match. So, when a man believes he has a soul mate, he subconsciously looks for a perfect lady. And because there is no perfect lady, he cannot find one.
A 32-year-old Christian, for example, has a job and accommodation, and is ready to settle down. He meets a lady he likes, who is also a good Christian. Rather than marrying her, he takes time to study this princess of Zion to be convinced she is “that one”. After one year of intensive study, the lady misses it and puts up an unusual behaviour. This makes the man believe she is not “that one” and he breaks up the relationship.
At this point, he becomes more cautious in choosing ladies. Six months later, he meets another Christian lady he likes, and starts another round of intensive study. After two years, he finds some faults and accepts she is not “that one”. He breaks up the relationship and the search continues.
The cycle may continue for over eight years. Even when he eventually marries at 40, he does so because he feels time is no longer on his side and not because he has found his soul mate.
Similarly, when an unmarried lady believes there is a “particular one” for her, the mentality automatically puts off would-be spouses. Even when she steps into a relationship, this wouldn’t lead to marriage because the man is not that “particular one”. And because that “particular one” does not exist, the end result would be delayed marriage.
The most annoying part of this trick of soul mate is that in spite of the fact that no one has ever found his or her soul mate, people are still searching for it. There are actually some people who get married believing they have found their soul mates. But few weeks into marriage, they would confess they didn’t marry their soul mates.
How it causes Separation and Divorce
When a couple marry because they believe they are soul mates, they have made one of the biggest mistakes in their lives.
This wrong notion would make them believe they are perfect match. As a result, they would expect so much from each other.
Few weeks into their marriage, one of them would put up an unusual behaviour and they would have a conflict. After the conflict, the man might believe he made a mistake in his choice of spouse. He might feel he missed his soul mate, and would stop making efforts to make the marriage work. His wife on other hand, would become frustrated because of her husband’s change of attitude towards her. This in turn would make her believe she married wrongly, and give up on any efforts to save her marriage.
Their marriage would start crashing and the couple would both become frustrated and unhappy. If care is not taken, the marriage might completely crash. This is one way, the trick of soul mate has immensely contributed to the breakdown of the marriage system on earth.
Solution to the Trick of Soul Mate
First, you have to understand that no one has a soul mate. There is no particular one God created for anybody. If God created a particular person for us, He would have told His friend Abraham about the lady He created for Isaac. This did not happen as Abraham mandated his servant to search for “a wife” (Gen 24:2-4). The phrase “A wife” in the passage, shows he didn’t ask the servant to get a particular wife. “A” is an indefinite article, which means the same as “any”.
The only condition Abraham gave his servant was to make sure the lady comes from his kindred. That condition also applies to every Christian. We must marry from the kindred of Abraham. How does that concern us in this generation? The Bible says in Galatians 3:7 that Christians are the children of Abraham.
Though, you have to marry from the Christian community, the choice is yours. Even when you pray for direction, God will not force anyone on you. The right of choice cannot be denied man. No wonder the Bible says in Proverbs 18:22 that he who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from God. It is your responsibility to find a spouse while it is God’s responsibility to favour you.
It is very important you know that the success of your marriage is not dependent on your spouse. The success of your marriage is determined by your willingness to tolerate, forgive and work out your marriage.
Why Many are deceived by the devil’s Tricks
Very many teachings of marriage in the Christian community are not based on the scriptures but on philosophies of men. The teachings make human sense but don’t produce results. Unfortunately very many people embrace teachings because they make human sense; not because they are scriptural. Every trick of the devil makes human sense but is not based on the word of God.
My earnest advice is that you accept a teaching because it is scriptural, even if it does not make human sense. A teaching will produce result as long as it is scriptural.
So, my dear Princes and Princesses of Zion, you do not have a soul mate. There is not one particular person God destined you to marry either. Just find a genuine God fearing born again partner who you like and are equally yoked with. STOP waiting for the one. He/she does not exist. I mean, imagine if it was true, we live in the world, not Heaven. People die, people lose their salvation, people become gay, so what if your soul mate died when they were a teenage or is now gay or an atheist, will God still expect you to marry him/her or are there some soul mates on reserve benches? NO!!!
God bless you